seduction is like performing dance for a trained dancer. In rare moments the dance becomes truly magical--feeling new like when they first discovered dance, but most often it is easy to get caught up in the rhythm and nuances of performance (your own much more than your partners). And if you haven't danced awhile you crave the dance floor. You want to just go out and feel the music within you, the partner becomes not entirely unimportant, for you wouldn't want someone who couldn't do the moves easily, but more important is the desire, that craving that is inside of you and the need too feel the floor and the music running through your blood. Not that dancing alone is not okay to stave the hunger off, but it isn't the same, it is about being able to manipulate time and bodies and the rhythm to make something more beautiful. It is the art, and bringing someone with you along your creation of that art.That craving is strong sometimes if you haven't visited the dance floor or haven't had a decent dance partner in awhile, but it becomes a balance when you find a new partner because you only get to dance with that person the first time once. From there it is correcting and critiquing and it becomes about the two of you, and the act itself. You are but one piece of the creation after the first time. Don't get me wrong, dual creation is wonderful and learning to improve and better move with each other mutually brings the dance to new levels that you never could do on your own. But that first time, is also about demonstrating your art. Putting on an performance for the other. It is almost entirely yours. It is what all your training was about; all the past pain and tears and dealing with difficult domineering teachers. It is an opportunity to take the pain gained skill and create a beautiful gift for someone. One they probably weren't expecting, so that added surprise is rewarding in itself.
When you choose the right moment to perform that first dance, it can be magical,
but if you let the craving overcome you, no matter how much you enjoy the indulgence, afterward there is an emptiness. Instead of bringing the other along on your creative path, you usually lose them (for they weren't ready) and they become an audience instead of participant and you both end up in different places on the dance floor.The distance is felt. For you just performed your art as a dancer performing for an audience instead of as a dancer performing with a partner. You are a performer, no longer a person performing.
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Nice metaphor Leecey. I performing for an audience vs. performing with a partner for its own sake especially so. It was great to hear from you this weekend - happy fourth of July:) Here is the quote about perfection that I mentioned:
"Perfection and productivity are mutually exclusive
One of the most powerful forces promoting procrastination is not necessarily the desire for perfection, but its evil twin: the fear of imperfection. If you don't engage with something, you can maintain the illusion that you're capable of its flawless execution. But if something must be right before you express it, you hold back in repression. If it must be faultless before you get involved, you will become a master of avoidance. If you're waiting to know something before you do something, you'll remain in ignorant inactivity. A willingness to be as vulnerable as you are, risking the void of putting yourself out there and getting yourself going without the security of total perfection, is the essence of productive living. You may achieve perfection, which is most easily found in the realization, not the creation, of it. But not if you worry about its absence."
"Nothing would be done at all if a man waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault with it."
- Cardinal Newman
Take care!
S
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