Taking action

So I dove in. Yesterday I dove into my place. In true FLYlady fashion I got out a timer and set it for 15 minutes. When I first decided to do this I shared this with others I was hurt when they said "why do you think this time it will be different?"

I see their point completely. Why will this be different? I am not sure it will, but I am different and I know I have to just keep trying, keep acting, and keep doing.

But I dove in, I got my timer out and set it for 15 minutes and started. I told myself that I was pissed and hurt and that is fine and that after the 15 minutes I would let myself have 15 minutes to wallow in self pity and whatever feelings I had. And that is what I did. Switched that timer on to 15 minutes again and again, the down time was less and less self pity, and more and more productive and also relaxing. I spent about 2 and 3/4 hours in this process and then took a break in the house talking to my roommate. We didn't discuss my feelings, but then again I was distanced enough from them I wanted to really think about it before really discussing it. What was I really upset over was it the comment from that day or was it the comment from before or the combo? or was it that I had the issue in the first place?

I went and got a coffee (my indulgence) and some take out (okay dealing with just one issue for that day) and I came back and started just doing little things that showed me how much space I really had, such as consolidating a few which were less than half full and stacking empty boxes in each other instead of spreading them around my place.

I was okay with stopping when I got tired and realized I made progress and that was all that was necessary. I would have been okay with just 15 minutes, because I am always amazed at what I get done in 15 minutes and because this mess wasn't created in a short time, and it won't be organized in a snap.

I took pictures along the way after every 15 minutes. It helped me see what I did and the progress I made. I will post them as soon as I download them from my phone. I am nervous about posting the pictures but I have to do that to let go of the shame and to let go of the judgment that happens inside me. I am what I am and I have to accept that before I can move on. Same as my place, I have to accept the clutter before I can accept how I am making it. It is bad, but now it isn't as bad as it was.

And that is a good thing!